Nollywood actress Anne Njemanze shared this photo today on her social media with the caption
"SHAKING SATURDAY TABLE.
"*DESPITE BEING FAITHFUL, MY MARRIED EX SAID UNPRINTABLE THINGS TO MY CHILDREN AND I.I JUST REASON AM SAY NO BE BY FORCE TO STAY INSIDE RELATIONSHIP NA. Make i no go craze...HOW ABOUT PEACE OF MIND?* "
Some of my gender feel that because we are past 40,35 years old,we will be very unhappy if we don't have a man to call ours.WHO TOLD YOU THAT YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO CALL ANYBODY YOUR OWN? YOU BE GOD? 🫣
Come; let's reason it.What will it profit you to always explain,then explain,walk-on egg shells, hide away your true self ,make un appreciated sacrifices for your lover and he/she still will not trust you? And still have the guts to gaslight you at any given opportunity. The words above describe that place where your mental stability is threatened.Get to love yourself first. Accept your mistakes first.If a man/Woman comes your way who can appreciate some of the changes you make for them,hold them fast.Honestly, no one can change all their colours for another. A partner who gaslights you and goes further to try to make you look a horrid parent before your children(if you're single),is never a right partner for you.As a single parent, you need one who is stable upstairs and willing to support you all round,especially in public.They will look at your strengths as you also appreciate their's and make the world sync into yours.If he is one who is only interested in being jealous over who you communicate with,walk.Jealousy over a lover is great but when that defines the relationship, that's toxic.
Alot of you comfortable married men end up with wives who are wrong for you, why and how? The woman wants to answer'mrs' , so she pretends to accept your rules and regulations until you both say "I do". When she shows her true self afterwards, you recite" who did I marry(part 1)". Then you both suffer emotionally.
Alot of my gender always forget what is most important. Beyond the money,beyond the fame and 'Mrs.Ade, Mrs. Okafor,Mrs. Etim,Mrs.Abdul... is your mental health. Why marry by pretence and start to suffer in your marital bed?You even risk being caught with a lover because you and hubby are not in sync,spiritualy,sexually, mentally.What about the environment you and your offspring should thrive and flourish in? Someone said to me ' marriage these days na war o.anyhow we go dey do am for dia' and I said NO. Marriage and relationships can be heavenly.Just put some things right first.Look at
Trust.
Forgiveness .
Patience.
Honesty.
I had a partner who only had the worst narrative of me because he just believes that a woman cannot be faithful or truthful.He grew up in a toxic environment that shifted his understanding of alot of things.Over the years as he grew,his friends took over his girlfriends from him and he never really fixed that crack. Today,he believes no woman is true and his insecurities are mega.
We need to work on ourselves. Accept to learn new theories because even the human way of thinking shifts between generations.
Me,I'm very single and though it may seem tough but my PEACE is uppermost in my mind . My LAUGHTER mustn't be threatened. I'm almost 50 in a few years and i ask how many days remain wey i go dey tink like say na me create myself. INUKWA.Time was when I thought I needed a man to complete me,until I learned that I must allow God's love for me first, love myself and the right one will naturally navigate towards me. MARRIAGE NO BE ACHIEVEMENT O. NA JUST +. You can be in that place and in love n harmony with another person for so long and some married couples don't have that!
You will never be perfect for everyone but YOU WILL BE PERFECT FOR THE RIGHT ONE.PICK YOURSELF UP AND DRINK COFFEE JUST LIKE ME".
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